Today I received a comment from a reader who had visited this website. He wrote:

Just got through my strengths and gifts. Nurturer stood out the most for me. Reading through all the other descriptors was like reading through everyone on the planet, people I like and surround myself with; people I don’t like and avoid and judge. Interesting that I feel a bit queasy.

I love the brave candor of this visitor. It takes guts to tell it like it is–particularly when the internal response is a little uncomfortable.

In my experience, discomfort–yes, even downright queasiness–comes with the territory when your consciousness is expanding. It means the narrowness of pre-conception is falling away. This is good news.

It is so much easier to judge. Judging keeps us feeling safe and secure and comfortable, for we’re in known territory. Our certainty is reinforced.

But certainty isn’t real. Love is real.

Think of it this way. The human spiritual path concludes in a state where the individual is living in the quality of love and acceptance for all; in fact, united consciously with all.

To go from a judging mentality (right/wrong, good/bad, yes/no) to an accepting, univeral, non-dual mentality logically must mean, then, that things you thought had fallen on the “no” side of the equation must be looked at… well, differently. More humanely. With more acceptance and love.

And this is what the visitor was experiencing. There was room in the model presented here for everyone. Everyone. And suddenly that made him uncomfortable.

I can imagine him thinking: I was so sure I was on the ‘right’ side of this. But if those people aren’t ‘wrong’… and I don’t think like them… what does that make me??

When you expand spiritually, you push beyond your comfort zone. Something in your established mindset gets challenged. It is the beginning of something bigger.

The first time I was challenged to hold something in love that I had felt strongly was “wrong,” I was very disconcerted. In fact, it was during my daughter’s birth when I almost died and she almost died, so I was more than disconcerted–I was near death! I’m sure that’s partly what helped my preconceptions to fall away so profoundly. In that moment, I had a vision of a spiritual teacher I had only visited once and she came to me as a vision, her head in front of me as big as a tire. She said to me, “Suzanne….” (implicitly dismissing all the things I had been so afraid of and thought were so “wrong,” “…It’s all love.”

It’s all love. All love??? What, are you kidding me?

It literally took me another seven years to reach the point spiritually where my consciousness transcended duality and I saw for myself that yes, it really is ALL LOVE. Seven years is a long time, and many times I was queasy.

So let yourself be queasy, my friend. When you hit your queasy stages, gently keep asking your questions and asking for answers in the manner that I advise. Your honesty will be your guide. Your honesty with yourself, with others, and with your inquiry. Trust that a greater power will reveal the truth to you, and that, in the end, love will melt all division.